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We normally work with families who live in the Adopt Thames Valley area. However we also consider potential applicants who live within an hour travelling distance of our geographical border, if they are able to adopt a child or children who are waiting for a family because of their particular needs. If approved to adopt through Adopt Thames Valley you will need to be able and willing to attend our support groups and in-house training.

We normally work with families who live in the Adopt Thames Valley area. However we also consider potential applicants who live within an hour travelling distance of our geographical border, if they are able to adopt a child or children who are waiting for a family because of their particular needs. If approved to adopt through Adopt Thames Valley you will need to be able and willing to attend our support groups and in-house training.

All applicants undergo statutory checks carried out with the police and local authority. Anyone with an offence against children is barred by law from becoming an adopter. Personal references, for example from friends or employers, are also taken up. All prospective adopters undergo a medical examination carried out by their own GP.

We look for adopters who are likely to be able to offer children the support they need and have the resilience to stick with a child for the long term.

You legally have to be over 21 years of age to adopt, but there is no upper age limit. Our aim is to place children with families who will be able to fully support them throughout their childhoods and into adulthood. We hope to place children with adopters who are active and healthy and able to meet the child's needs not just in the short term but continue into early adulthood. We look at all situations individually with age being just one of the factors we consider when reaching a decision.

No, applications are welcomed from single people, people in partnerships and those who are married, but any relationship needs to have permanency and stability. We ask that you have been living together for a minimum of 2 years. All adopters will need to have the support of their friends and family.

We welcome couples and individuals with a strong and supportive relationship, whatever their sexuality and/ or gender identity. A range of new free factsheets are now available for LGBT adopters. Written with the help of volunteers and Adoption Plus, they cover topics including adoption basics, approaching assessment, approaching the matching process and school. Adopters can download them from the NFS website.

There is no such thing as the ‘ideal’ or ‘perfect’ adoptive family. We are more interested in what you have to offer a child who needs adoption than your income level or whether you are on benefits.

We welcome applications from a wide range of people. Religion is not a determining factor in considering a person for adoption. We need adoptive parents to give safe and loving homes to children, helping each child to thrive in their new environment. Unfortunately there is a shortage of all minority ethnic adopters, in addition to this the number of children in care from BME backgrounds is increasing each year, we would therefore welcome applications from similar backgrounds.

We look at all circumstances individually. You are only automatically debarred from adoption if you have a record of offences against children, or significant offences of violence or a sexual nature.

Not necessarily. We ask families to have full medicals to ensure that they are fit enough to meet the needs of children placed with them.  If you have any worries about your health then we suggest you let us know and we will request a medical straight away.

No, you can be considered for adoption after having fertility investigations or treatment. However, we usually recommend a time gap of at least 6 months after treatment is finished before you apply. You are likely to have been through an emotional experience and you need time to adjust and to consider the implications of adoption carefully.

No, the experience that you have already gained in parenting children can be valuable. However if you have birth children, we would expect your youngest child to be at least four years of age before you start the adoption process.

An adopted child should always be the youngest child, with at least a two year age gap between them. Research has shown this approach has the most positive outcomes in adoption. We will generally want to meet any children not living with you, including grown up children, and to talk to them about your plans to adopt.

Due to medical evidence about the adverse effects of passive smoking on children, we do not place children with people who smoke. If you have been a smoker we would expect you to have given up smoking for at least six months before accepting an application (ROI) from you. We apply the same criteria to the use of any nicotine related devices, including e-cigarettes and vaporisers.

The children we place for adoption have experienced loss and instability therefore they need their parents to be available for them. They would not thrive with substitute carers, childminders or day nurseries.

Most people are entitled to adoption leave for 12 months and employers are often sympathetic to requests for part-time hours. For some children, returning to work after adoption leave would not be appropriate but this will be discussed with you. Under some circumstances for a limited number of children there are some means-tested allowances available to help if finance is a problem.

These are the main checks, but we may also ask for others where relevant.

DBS
A criminal background check. We look at all circumstances individually. You are only automatically debarred from adoption if you have a record of offences against children, or significant offences of violence or a sexual nature.

Employers reference

Housing reference
If you live in rented accommodation.

Ex partner check
If you have previously lived with someone, or had children with someone, we will approach that ex partner for a reference as long as it is safe to do so and they can be traced. We encourage you to call in early to discuss the circumstances if this is something that applies to you.

Overseas checks
For people who have lived abroad as an adult (over 18 years old) for more than a year, we will require overseas police checks. Please contact the relevant embassy for the country for guidance on how to initiate these checks. They can take some time to complete. https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/criminal-records-checks-for-overseas-applicants/countries-a-to-f-applying-for-a-criminal-records-check-for-someone-from-overseas

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/criminal-records-checks-for-overseas-applicants/countries-g-to-p-applying-for-a-criminal-records-check-for-someone-from-overseas

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/criminal-records-checks-for-overseas-applicants/countries-q-z

References relating to the children in your care
For applicants who already have children, we will require school /nursery references. We will ask you for the relevant details.
We will request a health visitor reference for any children in your household under 5 years of age

Personal references
If you are a Couple: 3 non-related & 1 Family member per person,
Single Applicant: 2 Non-related & 1 Family member

It is helpful if you put forward people who have known you for over 5 years and have seen you together ( if a couple) as a family ( if you have a child already) with other children etc

Social media checks
We look at your digital footprint with the wellbeing and safeguarding of children in mind, and may offer advice on how you can improve your digital security.

Home health and safety check
We need to check that your home is safe for a child and will provide advice on safety measures where needed

Pet assessment
We need to check that your pets are safe around children and will provide advice and guidance as necessary

Counselling references
If you have had counselling as an adult we will ask for references from the counsellor/therapist

SSAFA or other Armed Forces Check
If you have served in the armed forces then we require references from SSAFA